It’s not about our PLAN…It’s about this…

Many of you know that I follow the coaching and instruction of many of the top leaders in the personal development space. Right now almost everyone of them is drafting off of people’s New Year resolve to help people come up with the best possible plan for success in 2014.
Now, I don’t disagree that we all need a feasible, strategic plan against which we can measure our progress. I guess my skepticism is that it is way too easy to simply blame last year’s plan for last year’s progress.
This seems to ignore the many diligent people who actually do execute on their plans yet still find themselves not seeing the progress they are seeking.
Is that you?
After listening to hours of strategic planners, enthusiastic millionaire visionaries, attending seminars, reading books and hearing preachers talk about second chances, I have identified something that I offer to those I coach.
Today I give it away to you freely.
Ready?? –Here it is:
Confused? Let me explain.
We all want something. We are all going after certain things and turning away from other things. This comes from our cause and effect reality and from learning how we have benefitted our lives in the past.
But planning to “Go After” one thing or “Turn Away” from another thing doesn’t actually move us forward, it is really just a planning to do what we already ARE doing.  See the problem?
A plan doesn’t help us if we have not identified the underlying BASIS for our plan. This means we must consciously apprehend our true motivations.
In my coaching, most people do things out of either FEAR or PRIDE.
No matter what our PLAN is, if it comes out of fear or pride it will always yield the same or similar result.
The unchangeable rules of the universe (which I believe are established by a benevolent God) are such that if we add 2+2 we will always get 4. Until we change the variable (“2”) we will not get a different result.  In this case, until we alter our motivations, we will not see anything but the result of our present motivations.
  • Do you want wealth? Why?
  • Do you want healthy relationships? Why?
  • Do you want status or influence? Why?

Is it possible that the only motivation we really have is to have an easier, more comfortable, pain free life? If so, then we are no better than a cat who always sleeps in the sunny spot. If that is your motivation, then just be honest about it and then live in such a way as you can maximize your personal pleasure in life. Of course that will put you square in the face of morality at some point. Then what will you do if your motivation has to be tempered because it conflicts with other peoples similar motivation?  Not a recommended life plan.

Can’t you see, that the reason people fall time and again for “Get Rich” schemes are that they have never resolved the motivation for why they want wealth. People fail in diets because they haven’t grasped why they want to lose weight. People jump from relationship to relationship because they don’t know why they want one. The fact is…

  • They are running from something in their past.
  • They seek to spend it on themselves.
  • They want power over other people.
  • They want liberation from a life full of captivity.

If we do the INTERNAL work of uncovering our true motives, then we will have the OPPORTUNITY to actually change them.

Once the motivations of our hearts are sincere. Once they are HUMBLED–Our PLANS change!

  • Motivation for POWER & CONTROL is replaced with INFLUENCE.
  • Motivation for WEALTH is replaced with CONTENTMENT.
  • Motivation out of FEAR is replaced with ACCEPTANCE.
  • Motivation for LIBERATION is finally SATISFIED.

This is the seed from which the best possible plans sprout.  This kind of plan ALWAYS succeeds! IT NEVER FAILS! This kind of plan is based in prosperity and abundance, not scarcity and competition.

Thus a person with purer motives ceases to pursue rewards because their very life is already rewarded.

I challenge you this year to take some time FIRST to find your motivations. If you do and you change them, then the outcome will be a radically different PLAN than you started with.

The byproduct will be the most successful year of your life.

Make sure you pick a coach who can actually help you do this.

I can’t wait to hear what happens in your life.